5 Easy Lessons In How To Be A Modern Gentleman

AnOther presents Tom Ford’s five easy lessons in how to be a modern gentleman, taken from Jefferson Hack’s intimate conversation which appears in full in the issue.

1. You should put on the best version of yourself when you go out in the world because that is a show of respect to the other people around you.

2. A gentleman today has to work. People who do not work are so boring and are usually bored. You have to be passionate, you have to be engaged and you have to be contributing to the world.

3. Manners are very important and actually knowing when things are appropriate. I always open doors for women, I carry their coat, I make sure that they’re walking on the inside of the street. Stand up when people arrive at and leave the dinner table.

4. Don’t be pretentious or racist or sexist or judge people by their background. 

5. A man should never wear shorts in the city. Flip-flops and shorts in the city are never appropriate. Shorts should only be worn on the tennis court or on the beach.

Miami the Flirtiest City in the U.S., Says Badoo


I’m not sure what Badoo is, but I’m guess some sort of social networking site.

And here’s Fast Company’s thoughts on the flirting ranks:

More likely, the survey isn’t especially scientific. First of all, there’s Badoo’s definition of what counts as “flirting.” It’s any contact initiated through its site with a stranger–the average Miami resident on the site does that 18.5 times a month. But what if those all come from a few dozen extremely sad people who send out unreturned chats hundreds of times a day?

Tastebuds – Free Music Dating and Social Network for Music Lovers

Tastebuds music dating lets you find people who share your passion for music

Tell us the bands you love and we’ll find single people nearby who share your tastes

When I was in the single column, music was very important to me. (It still is.) When Facebook first came out (and everyone had their profile open), you could click on your favorite band on your profile and it would show you everyone at your school who also listed them in their favorites. You could go through the list of people and find anyone else who was single – you could Poke them or add them as a friend. I think I even went out on a date or two this way.

Well, Facebook eventually phased out this feature, and now most everyone keeps their profile private; it’s so hard to see who is single anymore! If Tastebuds gets critical mass, then it could bring that ability back to the masses.

A Post-Romantic Age?

Over on the Huffington Post, Pamela Haag gives an arousing argument that we are now in the post-romantic age. Here’s a tidbit.

Among other characteristics, the “post-romantic” age means that we marry people more like us than ever before. The opposites attract, “you say tomato, I say tomahto,” staple of the romantic plot is over. With the strong trend toward “assortative mating,” as researchers call it, like marries like today. Post-romantic spouses are more equal in the office and classroom, and more alike in attitudes, experiences, roles and goals.

Give the article a full read, as there are some challenging statements in there. If we truly are in a post-romantic age, than us Hopeful Romantics better be aware of it and adapt accordingly!


[Huffington Post]
[image via Flickr]

Dating Tips Backed By Science!

Here are some interesting dating tips backed by scientists!

Tip #4: Cross a scary bridge

Here’s another very simple tip for the ladies: frighten him. No, seriously. In 1974, University of British Columbia psychologists were studying human attraction using two bridges that crossed a local river. One bridge was solid, allowed firm footing, and was made of heavy cedar. It was only ten feet above the river, and had steady handrails. The other bridge was a five-foot-wide, 450-foot-long suspension bridge made of wire cables threaded through the ends of wooden boards. It would tilt, sway, and wobble as people tried to cross, 230 feet above the river.

Men who had just crossed one of the bridges were approached by an attractive female experimenter who asked them to complete several questionnaires. The men who had crossed the anxiety-inducing suspension bridge were more likely to attempt further contact with the experimenter than were the men who had crossed the stable bridge. The researchers suggest that it’s as if the men misunderstood their anxiety-induced physiological arousal – elevated heart rate, sweaty palms, and so on – interpreting it as sexual attraction and desire.

Moral of the story: scare the crap out of him and he might just make a move.


[image via xkcd]

Is Love in Shakespeare Boring?

A Jezebel writer posits that love is quite boring in Shakespeare.

In almost all the plays, heterosexual romantic love is completely bland and boring. A great example of this is A Midsummer Night’s Dream, wherein the lovers are so interchangeable that they are, in fact, interchanged. But Romeo and Juliet is a big offender in this area as well — the two fall in love at first sight (which happens all the time in Shakespeare and is never convincing), and then banter sweetly about how much they like each other until they both die. In fact…

Love is especially boring in Romeo and Juliet.

Continue reading for more examples. I can’t exactly disagree with her.