“I found that dating was the best personal development tool — the feedback is strong — people are either interested or they are not. It’s a clear indication of how you’re showing up. You can’t ignore it – you stop dating or you grow,” he said. “The game is the ritual of courting, and in a game, if you don’t have rules, you can’t have fun,” he added.
The game of courtship has changed for singles who are increasingly plugged into several social networking sites, but are the rules different? With hundreds of millions of users using Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and now Google+ each month, how do singles navigate dating and meeting potential dates on social networks?
Both locally and around the country, people who have dated someone they met on Twitter or Facebook say the social networks are good ways to get a more complete picture of the object of their affections, for better or worse.
1) What’s Said: MAYBE YOU’RE NOT TRYING HARD ENOUGH.
What’s Heard: “This can come off sounding like you’re passing judgment on effort,” says Anderson. “It’s better to encourage a single person to explore new relationships to the extent they are comfortable and to extend themselves in ways that feel natural and not forced.”
2) What’s Said: WEAR MORE MAKEUP.
What’s Heard: More than implying that the search for Mr. Right is as easy as brushing a spot of color onto the cheeks, this comment offends further by actually attacking a person’s core identity. “A woman presents herself according to what she defines as meaningful. Whether her style is glamorous belle or au naturelle, every woman should be allowed to be herself. There’s a man out there who is going to be attracted to her style, whatever it is. If she’s presenting herself as anyone other than who she really is, that’s false advertising and that’s going to backfire.”
Click through for the full list. Some common sense things, but worth a read in case you don’t know.
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