Wednesday Night Is Right for Loving


Rudder started by finding out, based on OkCupid’s mobile service, which customers in New York, Boston and Washington were out on the town on a given night. From these people’s profile data, Rudder then built a composite of four sets of personal characteristics that might correlate with openness toward new (but not necessarily long-lasting) relationships.

Two measures he studied were explicitly concerned with sex: what percentage of singles out on a given evening listed casual sex as a “romantic priority” and what percentage was willing to sleep with someone on a first date. The other two measures were less sex-centric: what percentage described themselves as extroverted and what percentage fancied themselves as adventurous.

When he put all the numbers together, he got a curious result. Weekdays, not weekends, are better for singles on the prowl — and the mix of people out on Wednesday nights are the friskiest.

We at the Hopeful Romantic do not promote casual sex or sex on the first date as it usually makes a serious relationship with that person more difficult.

But the Hopeful Romantic does stay well informed, so we pass along this tidbit without further comment.

A New Kissing Device Lets You Make Out Over The Internet

Researchers at the Kajimoto Laboratory at the University of Electro-Communications in Japan (of course) are working on a machine that can replicate a kiss from the Internet. Just approach the box, move the straw with your tongue, and your partner gets a straw moving in their mouth the same way. True bliss. Here’s a video:


This is timely. I’ve been working on Chapter 4 – First Date First Kiss.

5 Easy Lessons In How To Be A Modern Gentleman

AnOther presents Tom Ford’s five easy lessons in how to be a modern gentleman, taken from Jefferson Hack’s intimate conversation which appears in full in the issue.

1. You should put on the best version of yourself when you go out in the world because that is a show of respect to the other people around you.

2. A gentleman today has to work. People who do not work are so boring and are usually bored. You have to be passionate, you have to be engaged and you have to be contributing to the world.

3. Manners are very important and actually knowing when things are appropriate. I always open doors for women, I carry their coat, I make sure that they’re walking on the inside of the street. Stand up when people arrive at and leave the dinner table.

4. Don’t be pretentious or racist or sexist or judge people by their background. 

5. A man should never wear shorts in the city. Flip-flops and shorts in the city are never appropriate. Shorts should only be worn on the tennis court or on the beach.

Miami the Flirtiest City in the U.S., Says Badoo


I’m not sure what Badoo is, but I’m guess some sort of social networking site.

And here’s Fast Company’s thoughts on the flirting ranks:

More likely, the survey isn’t especially scientific. First of all, there’s Badoo’s definition of what counts as “flirting.” It’s any contact initiated through its site with a stranger–the average Miami resident on the site does that 18.5 times a month. But what if those all come from a few dozen extremely sad people who send out unreturned chats hundreds of times a day?

Tastebuds – Free Music Dating and Social Network for Music Lovers

Tastebuds music dating lets you find people who share your passion for music

Tell us the bands you love and we’ll find single people nearby who share your tastes

When I was in the single column, music was very important to me. (It still is.) When Facebook first came out (and everyone had their profile open), you could click on your favorite band on your profile and it would show you everyone at your school who also listed them in their favorites. You could go through the list of people and find anyone else who was single – you could Poke them or add them as a friend. I think I even went out on a date or two this way.

Well, Facebook eventually phased out this feature, and now most everyone keeps their profile private; it’s so hard to see who is single anymore! If Tastebuds gets critical mass, then it could bring that ability back to the masses.

A Post-Romantic Age?

Over on the Huffington Post, Pamela Haag gives an arousing argument that we are now in the post-romantic age. Here’s a tidbit.

Among other characteristics, the “post-romantic” age means that we marry people more like us than ever before. The opposites attract, “you say tomato, I say tomahto,” staple of the romantic plot is over. With the strong trend toward “assortative mating,” as researchers call it, like marries like today. Post-romantic spouses are more equal in the office and classroom, and more alike in attitudes, experiences, roles and goals.

Give the article a full read, as there are some challenging statements in there. If we truly are in a post-romantic age, than us Hopeful Romantics better be aware of it and adapt accordingly!


[Huffington Post]
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